by RosieS on October 17, 2013

Ironing pile

When it comes to juggling work and parenting, a number of balls have been dropped this week. In fact I’m not too sure many are left in the air. I’ve failed in spectacular fashion and now I’m left playing an impossible game of catch up.

I’m ironing clothes as I need them. I’ve a pile of paperwork I’ll never get to the bottom of. Somewhere in that pile of paperwork is my new debit card. I need to find it by the end of the month.  I need to put in secondary school applications by the end of the month too. Somewhere in the building there’s a form I need to fill in.

IJ’s hair hasn’t been washed. There’s a pile of unopened mail at the door and I’ve not even had time to do an Internet shop. Yesterday IJ’s packed lunch consisted mainly of chocolate. Not many mothers would admit to that.

It’s a busy time. I’ve become a little overwhelmed. On my to-do list it says write a to-do list. The last to-do list is out of date.

And it’s not even Friday yet.

I’m writing this on a train. Next to me there’s a lady holding a phone to her ear. She isn’t saying anything. She’s just listening.

She’s listening to her husband reading a bedtime story to their young daughter. Her daughter knows she is there.

I’m intruding on a family moment somewhat. But it does tell me something, thankfully.

I’m far from alone in all this. There are many many parents in the same boat.

It’s tough at times.

{ 27 comments… read them below or add one }

Chris October 17, 2013 at 7:00 pm

Yes, it is and you do extraordinarily well. Be kind to yourself. By the way, I only ever iron as needed ;-)


RosieS October 17, 2013 at 7:01 pm

That’s exactly what I needed to hear :)


Susan Man. October 17, 2013 at 7:07 pm

I never iron, it’s overrated, chocolate contains calcium & is made from beans, ergo one of your five a day, not forgetting energy. Lol. It’s so difficult to find that balance. I’ve loved being off work on mat leave but within the next 1 1/2 weeks I’m back. You do an amazing job & IJ loves you so much. We just do what we have to. Everyone is safe and that’s the main thing. Big hugs and feel for you x


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 1:29 pm

Thank you Susan. I’m going to ease off on the ironing and you are absolutely right about the chocolate. I will feed her more! Lots of luck going back to work and hugs to you too. x


liska October 17, 2013 at 7:49 pm

I hope you regain your equilibrium soon and hope to see you at the Google Mums event.


Liska x


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Thanks Liska. I’ve realised I’ve been attempting too much ironing. This has to stop. See you in November! x


Jen aka The Mad House October 17, 2013 at 8:09 pm

Get a person in to do the ironing and be gentle on yourself


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Brilliant idea Jen. Thank you.


liveotherwise October 17, 2013 at 8:24 pm

I only iron hama. And cloth when I’m making tudor clothes.

I don’t have a job and you’re describing my life. We’re all there.


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:03 pm

I laughed at your hama comment. Yes, I’ve realised we’re all attempting the juggling act. It’s been helpful to know I’m definitely not alone.


Suze xx October 17, 2013 at 8:44 pm

I never iron. Ever. There is no need – simply hang up your clothes straight away. File things tonight when IJ is in bed, that achievement itself will make you feel better. And wash IJs hair in the morning… urgh!!! Poor girl :) xx


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:04 pm

You’ve seen her hair. It’s a nightmare to wash. Does mum know you never iron? She’d be shocked :) xx


iota October 17, 2013 at 9:26 pm

Sounds like you’re doing ok.

Deep breathing, hot bath, early night.


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:04 pm

You’re absolutely right Iota. I took your advice and I’m much better now. Thank you.


Jean October 17, 2013 at 9:29 pm

I only ever iron when i need something and I’ve trained my girls to do the same. You’re doing fine, be kind to yourself x


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:05 pm

Thanks Jean. I needed to hear that. I’ve now abandoned the ironing and that feels good! x


Tasha Goddard October 17, 2013 at 10:57 pm

I almost never iron. When I was working in-house, I ironed twice the whole time. Hang work clothes on hangers to dry after a good shake and that’s all you need :) And IJ can surely wash her own hair :) You’re doing an awesome job xxx


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:06 pm

Thanks Tasha. I’ve just done a wash and followed your advice. My ironing will be substantially reduced now thank goodness. Not sure why I didn’t think of hanging it up in the first place! xx


Ellen Arnison October 18, 2013 at 12:04 am

It’s incredibly difficult. It’s hard to hear yourself think for the sound of dropping standards sometimes here. And yes, certainly only iron the front of shirts. In fact, I got a tumble dryer and find hanging stuff up straight away means nothing needs ironed.


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:08 pm

Thanks Ellen. Simply not possible to do everything well is it? I won’t be too hard on myself. I like the idea of only ironing the front of shirts too. Halves the job!


jfb57 October 18, 2013 at 8:04 am

Sending a hug of understanding Rosie. I know you worry about IJ & the effect it may all have on her but my lad who is 37, married & a father assures me that it was a great childhood when the ‘not enough time’ bits could be quite exciting!


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:11 pm

Oh thank you so much Julia. That does make me feel better. Not easy being a parent is it? And I guess we worry about them at any age. x


Gretta at Mums do travel October 18, 2013 at 8:15 am

Rosie, you’re a brilliant parent and life’s too short for ironing. I bet IJ was thrilled with her chocolate lunch: she’s going to want that every day now!


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:12 pm

Thanks Gretta. You’re right. Life is too short for ironing and chocolate for lunch is actually a good thing!


Helen Neale October 18, 2013 at 12:09 pm

You do a fantabulous job – and we are all doing the same chaotic juggling act – if its time for confessions, at least you Iron before you wear, I always buy clothes that don’t need ironing, or don’t iron at all ;-)


RosieS October 20, 2013 at 2:14 pm

Helen, I am now going to buy clothes that don’t need ironing. Perfect idea. And thank you. Yes, we’re all trying to juggle so much and I’m sure we often get it wrong. We should pat ourselves on the back rather than beating ourselves up! :)


Vonnie October 27, 2013 at 7:44 pm

I genuinely believe that our expected-to-have-it-all generation have it so much more difficult than previous generations, there’s so much to do and to live up to and to set examples to our kids. I liked the first comment about how you need to be kind to yourself – I absolutely believe that should be parenting rule number 1.

As for the ironing? Jaysus, I didn’t realise that was something people actually did. You should stop doing it, before someone catches you ;)


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